Re: Jumping up – real help needed (again)

[Justine&Rafe]

Thanks kerrie – will try to “man up” to strangers who let him jump up.

Thanks Sweetypye – will check out links in a mo.

Jumping up is based on greeting.  V difficult to control environmentally as I’m not always with him in boss’s house.  So when boss has visitors I can’t be there to physically hold him back.

Majority of time I can be with him.

He doesn’t run off to jump on strangers – recall not perfect but pretty good.  The only time he jumps up at people (I say only time, but it’s pretty frequent) is when they acknowledge him – a look is enough of a “come on” to him for him to then leap on them.  If I have hold of him on a lead and people come up to him he has the physical strength to drag me – altho we working on that with heel work.  But unless I have hold of his collar I can’t prevent him from jumping up when people are close.

He mostly spends the day playing with boss’s two (non-jumpy) dogs in his large garden, but will jump up on anyone who comes to visit.  Am loathe to put him in his cage all day to try to prevent it on the odd occasion – and he’d just be insane if left inside all day.  Like you say, won’t teach him not to jump up, and I need to get that.

Work I am doing – nothing.  Sounds rediculous but got so stressed out trying to tell everyone who he tried to jump up on to push him down – they all say “oh I don’t mind” and it’s really hard (I know, excuses) to say that I do.

So instead of fighting with my boyfriend, my parents, my boss’s son constantly, I just gave up.  Apparently this solves nothing.

Did a little 4-paws work, and his jumping up on me is not so bad – I know his triggers, and I know how to keep him down around me, but I have NO control of him on other people whatsoever.  He has learned that if he tries, even if mummy says no, the other people will let him some of the time – and that’s enough for him.

So that’s the work – he has no reinforcement for jumping up on me, but on everyone else around me, huge reinforcement as they pet him.  I can deal with him, but just struggle to tell other people to stop it.  And it feels as if there’s noone on my side to help me.  The support I should be getting from boyfriend isn’t there, and although my mum tries her best to help out with him, my dad still makes light of it.