Re: Is she just being grumpy?

[Anonymous]

Hi,

bless you 🙂  …. it does – its complicated !!

Meg is a natural to be boss – she probably doesnt need any active promotion to think she’s above Ollie, more just being careful not to cause fights by doing something with Ollie first if you see what I mean.   

You also need to keep her below you and OH.  Sofa = boss peoples bed-like place which means being allowed up is a privilege (not a given right) and being on sofa on boss lap is like shifting her status up even more.

Ollie should feel safe in his bed and retire there unless you explicitly allow him up or you’ll be re-inforcing him over Meg which I doubt she’ll be impressed with 😉  If she goes to annoy him there – manage her.  Also you need to think about your management before you or OH or the dogs move / enter / exit the “pack area” no suddenly moving etc … and manage meg if you think she is likely to attack.  When you get the feel of it more you can also re-inforce Ollie’s correct responses (be careful not to re-inforce ones you think are ‘worry’ – i fall into this trap every time with Wills !!!)

if you are going aaaaaaah – dont worry you’ll have an a-ha moment soon and suddenly ‘get it’ (well i did).

Claire x